When people start to pry over my personal background to know me better, they tend to ask if I am single, married, separated or a single mom. Since I am legally married but separated, I often find myself having a difficult time answering. And most of the time, I find myself explaining the situation.
After being faced with the same question over and over again, I have finally decided to adopt the word "solo parent." Since I am still legally married, the term "single mom" doesn't technical fits me. I maybe alone in upbringing my children but I am not "single" as the law sees me. Here in our place, when you say "single" they usually think your unmarried. So, I started using the term "solo parent" since it signifies me being a mom and dad at the same time to my kids. If I use the term "separated," I felt that I am leaving my role as a mom behind. But when I say I am a "solo parent," it immediately signifies that I am "solo" and is raising kids. It easily answers their questions. Aside from that, I don't have any difficulties explaining myself to them. Just plain and simple!
Anyway, I really don’t know why I am being so technical about the terms that I used when referring to myself or how my status in life is. I somehow felt that maybe I just want to simplify things. My past has been a real messy one that I want my present and future to be simple and as much as possible smooth. Or maybe, I am just too tired explaining myself to other people. Answering "solo parent" somehow makes me feel that it finishes the probing.
Mommy Ruby, that is a perfect word that describe your status :-) I admire you for praising those beautiful kids of yours by yourself. You are very extra ordinary and my hats off to you
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Me too I salute you Mommy Rubz bringing up those kids all by yourself. I agree with Mommy Jes, you are extraordinary.
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From one solo mom to another...YOU ROCK!! :)
ReplyDeleteBeing a solo parent is hard, speaking as a single mom here. We have 2 roles, a father and a mother to our kids. We take care of our home and work as the same time (kayod kalabaw LOL). But we are always blessed (even on small things). Heads up to us! We are wonderful women of God. :)
ReplyDeletemy salute to solo parents like you Mom Rubz...you are an inspiration:)
ReplyDeleteI salute you for being such a dedicated and loving Mom, Ruby.
ReplyDeleteNow, I know! I really wanted to personally ask you about this Mommy Ruby, however I cannot find the courage. I admire people who works hard for their family, especially for their children.
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