When people start to pry over my personal background to know me better, they tend to ask if I am single, married, separated or a single mom. Since I am legally married but separated, I often find myself having a difficult time answering. And most of the time, I find myself explaining the situation.
After being faced with the same question over and over again, I have finally decided to adopt the word "solo parent." Since I am still legally married, the term "single mom" doesn't technical fits me. I maybe alone in upbringing my children but I am not "single" as the law sees me. Here in our place, when you say "single" they usually think your unmarried. So, I started using the term "solo parent" since it signifies me being a mom and dad at the same time to my kids. If I use the term "separated," I felt that I am leaving my role as a mom behind. But when I say I am a "solo parent," it immediately signifies that I am "solo" and is raising kids. It easily answers their questions. Aside from that, I don't have any difficulties explaining myself to them. Just plain and simple!
Anyway, I really don’t know why I am being so technical about the terms that I used when referring to myself or how my status in life is. I somehow felt that maybe I just want to simplify things. My past has been a real messy one that I want my present and future to be simple and as much as possible smooth. Or maybe, I am just too tired explaining myself to other people. Answering "solo parent" somehow makes me feel that it finishes the probing.